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What are you craving in 2017?

#cravingstribe

When I originally started writing this post two days ago, I was so full of optimism and go-get-’em positivity. I was definitely in cheerleader mode. Then, yesterday morning, something happened that made me take a second look at my approach. I went to throw on some jeans and a particular sweater for a trip to New York City. First pair didn’t fit. Second pair barely fit. By the time I got to the third pair of jeans, I was both frustrated and sad, wondering if I should be the one leading this tribe of ours. How had I strayed so far from my own principles and practices? And so we are beginning today from a place of total honesty, which is the way it should be.

I am not “leading” us down this path toward transformation; I am walking right alongside you. I know from personal and powerful first-hand experience that the practices I’ve outlined in Cravings can make a difference, not only in your waistline and on your dinner plate but in your mindset and mood and perspective. Over the past 18 months, however, ever since I went to work in an outside office rather than writing from my home office, I’ve had trouble finding the new “normal” in my eating, exercising, praying, mindfulness routine. Where I used to spend time each morning over my bowl of Mindful Oatmeal, a practice that grounded my day and gave me balance, I now throw a yogurt in my bag and usually don’t remember to eat it until halfway through the morning — at my desk as I work. cravings cover(And then I swing by a friend’s office to grab some always-at-the-ready candy.) Where I used to consciously strive to get away from the multi-tasking mindset that wreaks havoc with our serenity and, by extension, our eating habits, I now regularly do about 10 things at once and almost always end up eating my lunch at my desk as I answer emails and keep up with various projects. Sometimes I just plop my lunch container down on top of the pile of folders and newspapers. I’m here to tell you that eating that way, operating that way is a recipe for disaster in terms of both physical and mental health.

Which is what brings us to where we are today: Cravings, Chapter 1: A Deeper Hunger. What is your deeper hunger for 2017? Surely it’s more than taking off a few pounds. I’m guessing that if you’re anything like me, underneath the surface hunger for a slimmer waistline or stronger abs is a desire for inner peace, self-acceptance, and a transformation that will lead you to a place where you are not defined by the number on the scale or the size of your jeans.

As we begin our journey, some aspects may feel a little unusual since we’re talking about eating habits and diet but we’re not actually going on a diet. I’m not going to give you a list of foods you can’t eat or foods you must eat or an amount of exercise you should do. This is going to be a much deeper and interior journey than the typical kind of health plan. If you follow this path, your newly restored relationship with food will naturally bring things into balance because you won’t be stuffing or starving based on feelings of inadequacy or because of stress in your work or home life or because you’re trying to fill a void of some kind. You will be learning to move mindfully through your meals, through life, doing things with attention and INtention, which is what sets this apart from any old diet. In order to do that, we have to drop down into our heart center and make a spiritual connection.

From Chapter 1:

“When we begin to connect prayer lives to physical lives, when we look beneath the surface, we often discover just how deeply intertwined the two are and how our food issues are wound around our spiritual needs and longings. We’re not hungry for a carton of ice cream or a bag of chips. We’re hungry for acceptance — from ourselves even more than from others — for love, for fulfillment, for peace. We’re hungry for a life we think we don’t deserve or can’t have, for the person we know we can be if only we’d give ourselves the chance.

“Often it is not the fear of failure that holds us back but the fear of success. We cling to the comfortable rather than step out into the possible. So we sit at home with a container of Cookies and Cream rather than take a chance on getting our heart broken again, or we down an entire bag of chocolate-covered pretzels rather than work on that resume that might get us out of a dead-end job. Or we eat cold pasta right from the refrigerator rather than sit down in silence and listen for the whisper of the Spirit speaking to our hearts.”

Practice for the week: Rather than counting calories and fat grams, this week we’re going to try to add one spiritual practice to our daily routine. It can be five minutes of silence and deep breathing at the start of the day, or a meditative walk out in nature, or daily Mass, or a few minutes with Scripture — whatever suits your spiritual style. Do your practice daily for one week, and at week’s end, notice if there were any changes. How did it change your mood, attitude, habits, hungers, if it changed it at all? Was it hard to do? Can you keep it up, or even increase you amount of prayer time? (You’ll find some questions to prompt reflection at the end of Chapter 1, along with a meditation.)

Journaling: If you haven’t already started a journal, now is the time to begin that as well. A simple spiral notebook is fine. Again, no calorie counting. This is about noticing more than what’s on your plate. Yes, jot down what you eat, but, just as important, write down how you feel on any given day — physically, emotionally, and spiritually. What’s going on in your life that might be making you scrounge around in the pantry for cookies or stare into the fridge for a magical food that will make the pain going away?

Prayer: If you’re looking for something to serve as a spiritual touchstone, spend some time with Psalm 139, which you’ll find on pages 13-14 of Chapter 1 (or in your Bible). Focus on these words:

“I praise you, so wonderfully you made me; wonderful are your works!”

Can you see yourself as wonderfully made, loved unconditionally by God? This is our starting point. And our ending point. It can be hard work to get there, but we’ll tackle it together, and share our struggles here in the comment section. I can tell you with all honesty that yesterday morning, as I faced my own backsliding, I did not feel wonderfully made. Not even close. But because I’ve made this journey before, I know what that means: It’s time to slow down, to take time for some self-care, to spend time with God, to shut out the noise of our chaotic world and recapture my balance, to become more mindful. (If you’re struggling with mindfulness over multi-tasking, you can find a post on that topic HERE. We’ll talk more on that topic in the weeks ahead.)

Thank you for joining me on this journey. Feel free to ask questions, share stories, or start discussions in the comment section, and you can always find me on Facebook as well.

Upcoming radio interviews on the #CravingsTribe:

Monday, Jan. 2, 8:20 p.m.: Busted Halo, the Catholic Channel, SiriusXM 129

Tuesday, Jan. 3: Currents, NET-TV

Musical inspiration for the week ahead: Colours by Margo Rey

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  1. This gets right to the core of my deepest craving, the deepest longing or our heart and soul: to know deeply, with great certainty of the love of God, right here, right now, in this moment.
    A deep longing for a while is peeling back the defensive layers I’ve built up over time.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Amen, Teri. I’m hoping we can do that together. So glad you’re here, and thank you for sharing.

      Our day here — because we’re all off for the extended holiday — is off to a slow start, and I’ve been pondering how to make some changes to a routine that wastes a lot of precious time on mindless things, not just eating but social media as well. My diet of screen time is as off balance as my actual diet. So often I say I have no time for meditation, no time for exercise, no time to shop for healthy foods, but if I start to take note of how much time I spend in front of my computer (not for work but for “fun”), I might discover I have more time than I ever imagined!

      It’s all about mindfulness, but our society doesn’t lend itself to that practice. It takes effort!
      Thanks for sharing with me with morning.
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 2, 2017
  2. Mary! As always, beautifully written! And, as usual, we are on the same page! I am over here in my part of town wanting to feel fitter, but also knowing I need to pray more, be silent more, be more confident, and really get to know God more. My question for you (and the group) is, how do we get to the next step after recognizing what we need? How do we DO things? How do we motivate ourselves to do the work?

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      That’s a great question, Jill. Because it’s hard work. It’s easier to stay on social media, or watch TV, or drink one more cup of coffee than to sit down in silence and face ourselves and God — and sometimes our demons. Some folks say putting it on your calendar helps, to set an appointment like you would for any other important event. That has never worked for me because I’m so willing to blow off my own needs and quiet time.

      For me, keeping the notebook has been key when I’ve done this successfully. Sort of like a physical/spiritual/mental health version of the Morning Pages recommended by Julia Cameron. When I take note of not only the food I’m eating but the mood I’m in and what’s been happening at home or at work that might be stressing me out, I start to see connections. So that’s one key thing.

      And at least five minutes of silence. Can you find even five minutes in your day to set a time and just be — with yourself, with God? I think that’s also key, and then working up to 10, 15, and eventually 20 minutes.

      That being said, I know how easy it is to just shrug it all off and do none of the above. I was recently reading a book on yoga and depression and how yoga combined with regular meditation can be as effective for depression as medications. And I asked the question you just asked: HOW, if we’re already down in the dumps and verging on depressed, do we motivate ourselves to do something? It can take what feels like Herculean effort to do it, I think, but sometimes we have to just do something, anything. And then make a note of it and watch to see if at the end of the week we handled a stressful situation better or eat less junk food or felt happier. It’s about becoming aware first.

      Also, we’ve got about 20 people in the tribe right here in the Capital Region, so I’m thinking at some point — or several times during this eight weeks — we can have an actual in-person event. What do you think?!?! Maybe even a retreat day to end it.

      January 2, 2017
  3. Christine #

    I have been stagnant for such a long time, I am fearful of everything these days. I am willing to look deep and find some release. Life is short, no more wasting it sitting home eating and shopping mindlessly

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      I am right there with you, Christine! Although I wrote the book on cravings, it’s easy to fall back into bad habits if we lose our center and start spinning without taking the time to reflect and give ourselves time and care. We will do this together!
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 2, 2017
  4. Linda #

    I could relate to how life has changed since returning to work in an office. For the past two years, I have been a substitute teacher in the high school. I need to leave for work at 7 am. I have prayer practices that have been in place for so many years and continue pray and read while eating my breakfast. If I am alone, I will generally read, rather than just focus on my meal. I printed out the “Turning Meals into Meditation” and am trying to work on this. The five minutes of quiet…well I have no real excuse for not taking the five minutes. I’ll start today, but planning. If I am working, I will plan to take the time (it’s only five minutes) and just sit when I get home. If I am not working, then once everyone leaves the house, I can certainly do this. Thank you for your insight!

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Linda,

      Thank you for sharing. You’re inspiring me! Believe it or not, what’s been helping me over the past week has been the new Apple watch my husband gave me as a surprise for Christmas. Every hour a chime goes off and reminds to quiet myself and breathe for just one minute. I find myself, at times, blowing it off. REALLY?!? I can’t breathe quietly for ONE minute. That’s how crazy my world has become. So now I’m trying to take those hourly minutes, and it makes a difference. Just breathing deep and being silent for a minute at a time.

      So to take the Anne Lamott approach to this (if there are any Anne fans out there), we will do this “bird by bird” or breath by breath. One breath at a time, one minute at a time…

      Peace,
      Mary

      January 2, 2017
      • Linda #

        One minute at a time sounds really doable!

        January 2, 2017
  5. Kelly #

    I jumped ahead a little over a week ago – read Chapter One, started journaling, spending time in prayer, reading my bible, reading “Jesus Calling” every day and just listening for God to speak to me. I am more cognizant of my inner voice, the one that says positive things to me and expresses love for me. Funny how my inner monologue can change in such a short time if I am hearing God’s constant and undying love for me.

    I can read all the motivational quotes or try every diet plan in the world, but if I am only hearing a negative voice from my past on a constant loop in my head, then it is all for naught. It is that “fear of success” that has always killed it for me in the past. This time I am working on the whole package – mental and physical.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Wow! That’s so great to hear. Yes, I’ve got that negative voice on continuous loop most of the time. Isn’t amazing how we can be so hard on ourselves. I would never talk to anyone else the way I talk to myself. It takes real work to dig down and find that place inside where we recognize that we are worthy and loved and good enough. Kudos to you for making such great strides already!

      January 2, 2017
    • Fear of success is the biggest fear I have in life. I have been praying for months to overcome it, now that I am aware of it. It is terrible. I hold onto my weight as a way to fail; it’s my default reason for almost everything that bothers me or goes wrong, which is not at all true. I pray we all move forward in our goals and getting rid of what we don’t need to carry!

      January 2, 2017
      • Mary DeTurris Poust #

        I have this Marianne Williamson quote hanging in my home office:

        “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

        January 2, 2017
        • Kelly #

          This hangs in my office too! I have always related to it! Thanks for sharing it!

          January 3, 2017
  6. Arlene #

    My biggest craving? sisterhood, and a mindfulness of letting go. Letting go! Not praying for the God to answer and then running around trying to fix it myself. Letting Him take what is weighing heavy on my heart, instead of pretending that I have the control.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Are you in my head?!?! 😉
      Same here. I knew I needed this “tribe” because I’m not doing so well in isolation. It’s so easy to feel alone despite all the FB friends and online connections and work interactions. Even with all that, if we’re not making real connections with like-minded folks and building community or sisterhood, we’re going to have a tough time. Thanks for being here.

      January 2, 2017
  7. Dennis #

    When I first read Cravings (before it was published – a perk of being married to the author), it led to a lot of positive changes in my eating behavior and approach to food, especially eating mindfully, not eating in front of my computer, not eating while driving. Many of those old habits returned over time, except eating while driving. But this will encourage me to go back to making those things a priority. To Linda, above, I think you will find “turning meals into meditation” a really positive thing, and I encourage you to stick with it for a while, without even spiritual reading or spoken prayer. Just eating as prayer. When I’m doing it, I tend to eat less and enjoy my food more. It is even good for digestion because you tend to chew more thoroughly, etc. I recently did a retreat at a Trappist monastery, and I LOVED mealtime, which was communal but taken in silence (except for grace before meals). Even cleanup felt like a prayerful experience. I’m hoping, with the support of everyone here, to re-establish those habits, not just for my waistband but for my inner peace and serenity. Namaste, y’all.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Thanks for joining the tribe, Dennis. You’re one of only two brave men who have publicly told me they want to be part of it. 🙂
      Maybe we can try a silent meal at home with the kids….. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

      January 2, 2017
      • Linda #

        I am definitely one who is busy multitasking when eating. Then I wonder where the food went!

        January 2, 2017
  8. Carrie #

    I would like to fit into my smaller size jeans. Also I would like to get off the merry go round of activities that fill my days and sends me mindlessly into the pantry to indulge in that forbidden snack or grant myself permission to eat whatever I want because I deserve it. This empty entitlement leaves me feeling guilty and not liking myself very much. I’m trying not to beat myself up but consider this time of my life my season of overwhelming expectations. The Cravings tribe couldn’t have come along at a better time. I have gotten away from attending daily mass, that jumped out at me in your post too. So I am committing to that and see how my plans go this week. I’m jumping into chapter 1 and am looking forward to applying mindfulness in my daily interactions and activities. Thanks!

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Great! Welcome, and thank you for sharing so honestly. Every comment here makes me feel more motivated, more inspired, and more convinced of this new community we’re forming!

      January 2, 2017
  9. Jean #

    Good morning, Mary, and thank you.
    Not sure I can quite articulate what I’m craving, though I’d like to curtail the incessant negative mental commentary I’ve got going on. Clearly that comes from a deeper place I work hard to ignore!
    I’d really like to get to a more mindful place. I appreciate – greatly- the idea of one minute of breathing an hour. Thanks for that thought!
    I’d also like to feel like my body is stronger. If a smaller pant size comes from that, I’d be happy about it, but what I’d be happier about would be not caring about the pant size. That might be a stretch. (Ha. See first comment…) I guess it’s quite clear I need this group! Lordy be….
    Glad to be here with you all.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Jean,

      Yeah, the mindfulness is key for me, because if I can get that down, it will be a good thing in many different areas of my life, not just the food part. When I wrote Cravings and Everyday Divine, they were back to back. Typically I would be just nuts during that kind of intense process, but I was incredibly calm. I think it was because I was practicing what I was writing about — trying to remain mindful, trying not to let things like jeans that don’t fit or a problem with work pull me off course. That’s why I’m convinced of the way this works. I lived it. Slipping back into crazy multi-tasking is taking its toll on me. Something had to give. And the #cravingstribe was born. 🙂

      Thanks for being here!

      January 2, 2017
  10. Maureen #

    I have been looking forward to the “Tribe” starting…so what should happen this morning? I wake up hungry. Great before the day starts I am going to screw things up. But than when I am taking my medication and drinking water to help me swallow, I realize that this water I take for granted is life. Without it I could not survive. WOW, that never occurred to me before!
    I than decided to read the first chapter of Cravings. The one thing I know is that I am not in want of food but surely have been on a spiritual starvation diet for a long time. During Advent I decided to read the daily Mass readings. So as a part of my 2017 Revolution I pledge to continue.
    When my husband woke up, together we ate breakfast, but for me this morning it was different. I said a silent pray of thanksgiving before I started to eat.
    I pray that tomorrow when I go back to work and commuting into NYC that I will remember that God doesn’t take away our burdens, he helps us navigate them. I can do this, we can do this, One day (or moment) at a time.
    Thank you and God Bless!

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Way to go, Maureen!

      January 2, 2017
  11. Ninette #

    It’s wonderful being part of the tribe. The weeks between Christmas and February break( I was a teacher) has always been a time of hunkering down, looking within, self care and quite frankly lots of sleep. I celebrated His Birth well…..reaching out to family and friends…sharing traditions. And yes my clothes are tighter and I’m a little more winded climbing the stairs.
    “Our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee O Lord” I don’t believe I’ll ever stop craving but with this “tribe” I would like a better relationship with food….to be more mindful…to keep the craving space open for God o fill. My spiritual practice will include getting back to the 3 c’s…coffee, candle and Christ each morning before work.

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Ninette,

      I love the 3 C’s. Great idea. Thanks for sharing that one, and thanks for being here!

      Mary

      January 2, 2017
  12. Ann Pawlik #

    Thinking about what I could do to get myself going, I have decided that a good practice for me would be to mindfully prepare my lunches for work each day. I have daily access to our cafeteria but am not always good about the choices I make. I am a Type 2 diabetic and by really thinking about what I will take will be a positive step in managing my health. I have prepared a small spiral notebook for recording my daily blood glucose levels. I had been doing this faithfully for about 4 months and got away from it .The numbers don’t lie; it is certainly time for me to get back on track. I have also been thinking about daily visits for some prayer time in our school chapel (on work days) or simply sitting in the quiet of that sacred space.
    I love the idea of some kind of a retreat day!

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Sounds great, Ann! I was thinking about my lunch routine as well. I’ve gotten bad about running down to Blessings Cafe in the Pastoral Center, ordering something WAY too heavy, and then eating it as I work in my office. Exactly what I tell you NOT to do in Cravings. It’s a new day…it’s a new dawn…and I’m feeling good. 🙂

      January 2, 2017
  13. Cathy #

    Thanks, Mary! Eating…without doing anything else…that’s such a novel thought that it alone will take me a while to work into…in fact, finished an apple pear while writing this! I jumped in a couple days early myself, and tried to be mindful while eating my oatmeal …soooo hard to not use the time to be reading/checking emails, etc. Loved slowly reading Psalm 139 and am going to make it my daily/morning affirmation for the next 8 weeks. I’m looking forward to delving into myself more deeply and am grateful for the chance to do it with a tribe of like-minded women!

    Happy New Year, everyone!

    Cathy

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      That’s great. Sounds like you’re on your way. Thanks for the inspiration!

      January 2, 2017
  14. Lusa Wilkinson #

    Thank you Mary for doing this. What a wonderful way to start the year.

    Waiting to get my book but I am wondering about the role of positive thinking will play a big role in this journey. Do you feel meditation can help foster positive thinking and help counter the negative messages we send ourselves?

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Absolutely. Meditation and mindfulness will be critical to this. The real work is interior. That’s what will make this different from any other health plan. I always tell people to begin with just five minutes of silent meditation each day (if they’re not used to doing regular meditation) and they will see a difference in short order. It’s amazing what a how powerful those few minutes of silence can be.
      I hope your book gets there soon! Thanks for joining the tribe. 🙂

      January 2, 2017
  15. Susan Peters #

    The pace of my life has changed drastically this year, leaving me with the gift of time, so I am especially excited by our Cravings-Tribe. Even though I now have a great deal of time to myself, I still find myself filling this time with “something” other than mindfulness – reading, writing, scrolling Facebook, doing household chores, eating. Health issues have forced me to change my eating and alcohol habits, but have added to my stress. I particularly loved your comment about an alarm to remind you each hour to take a moment to just breathe. I can feel the difference in my stress level when I concentrate on breathing. I also crave a richer prayer life, and am happy to be walking this path with all of you.

    Sue

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Sue,
      So nice to see you here. I’ve missed our bus stop conversations. 🙂
      We will breathe together…
      Mary

      January 2, 2017
  16. Esther #

    Helly Mary,

    I heard your interview this evening on the Busted Halow show. You were an answered prayer. I want to be part of craving tribe. One of my goals this year is my nutrition. I am dusting myself off and getting up on this eternal horse once again. I crave stability in my eating and exercise habits and routines. I craves high carb, sugar filled foods at more most vulnerable times. I am so glad that there is a spiritual component in your method! That it’s Catholic is the icing on the cake! LOL No pun intended!. Is your book by chance on Audible? I haven’t check yet, but if it’s not, I would highly recommend maybe publishing in audible form. I am a person that spends at least 2 hours a day in the car and listen to many books during my drive. Anyway…Thanks for your service and message. May God bless you and guide you in your work. Peace be with you. Esther

    January 2, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      It’s not on Audible, but just recently I was thinking that I should find out from my publisher how to make that happen. You’ve inspired to me to ask! 🙂
      I’m so glad you’re joining us. I hope the book and this tribe of ours can be a support to you on the journey.
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 3, 2017
  17. Mary #

    Your words, I believe inspired by God, are here to reach us who struggle and give us hope. I am so grateful.

    January 3, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Mary,
      Thank you for those kind words. They mean so much to me. Sometimes I wonder what I’m thinking trying to do something like this, but all of you have made me realize that it was supposed to be! Thanks for being here!
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 3, 2017
  18. Amy #

    Heard you on the radio tonight and thought “I need in on that tribe! Those are my people.” Now I read your post and I know that I was right. Is there an official sign up?

    January 3, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Amy,

      Thanks for being here. Sign-up is easy. You’re in! 🙂
      This blog will be where most things happen, although I’m also over on FB. I’m hoping to do a weekly podcast starting next week, and maybe a Facebook Live event or two. Not sure where you’re located, but if I get a critical mass in NY’s Capital Region (where I’m located) I may do a retreat-type day at the end if we can get enough interest. At some point soon, I’d like to find a way for folks to let me know their locations and emails so people who might be near each other geographically can connect if they like.

      Peace,
      Mary

      January 3, 2017
  19. Lee #

    I commented on Twitter but wanted to thank all the commenters here – such inspiring words! I’m happy to be here learning with you all.

    January 3, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      🙂 Thanks for sharing over on Twitter as well!

      January 3, 2017
  20. I like jeans part of this story. Our habits are very seductive. I had similar wake up moment few days ago. Last 2 weeks I was spending a lot of time with my kids, just watching them doing what they like doing. What I found, is that they are concentrating 100% time to really do what they love all the time. I was concentrating may be 80% of time doing something, what I was thinking is supporting me in doing 20% of time, what I really love to do. Even, that I am explaining all people around me, how important is to concentrate only on doing what we love to do.

    January 3, 2017
  21. Paula #

    Mary, This is always a tough time of the year for me. Gray skies and gray thoughts…. Too much time spent doubting myself…. You get the idea. I have printed out Psalm 139 and hope I will refer to it often. I remember reading it at the Women’s Retreat before your talk and feeling honored to do so. I also really appreciate your Marianne Williamson quote. Thank you so much for opening yourself up and doing this. One of the many things I love about you! p.s. Any chance there will be links to your radio interviews?

    January 3, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Paula,

      Thanks for being here. 🙂

      I’m hoping some of the radio shows will post archived copies I can share. Today’s will probably be archived, and I did a very brief Catholic TV interview today. If they make them available, I’ll post them. Also, another Catholic writer and tribe member — Allison Gingras — has generously offered to allow me to share her podcasts on Thursdays starting next week, so I’ll be able to put them on the blog as well.

      Hang in there on this rainy January day. It’s a tough one! I think I’d be dipping into some pretty strong sadness right about now if not for the support and inspiration I’m finding here in this tribe. As I said when I started this, I was really doing it for me. I knew I couldn’t do it alone this time. So thank you to every who’s here sharing their struggles and stories!

      Mary

      January 3, 2017
  22. My deepest craving is to have a REAL sense of my body and all that makes it and makes me. I have spent so many years out of touch with my physical form, and I really believe that the last few months of yoga and contemplative prayer have put me into a place where I might be willing to encounter my physical self. I have lots more thoughts about this…am looking forward to walking this path with you all.

    January 3, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Hi Mary,

      Thanks for sharing. I, too, can feel the difference in my body and my life when I am doing yoga and meditation, and yet so often I choose to skip. What won’t I do what I know is good for me?!? That’s what I hope to discover during this journey through my own book. Thanks for being here!

      Mary

      January 4, 2017
  23. Ann #

    Heard about this book in relevant radio last year and was instantly drawn to the topic and imagined the ‘possibilities’ that would emanate from this study. Also, that I could substitute food for what i am struggling with. Bible reading is the spiritual exercise of choice for the week as I have struggled with different Bible programs in the past and haven’t made scripture reading the mainstay of my faith *any pointers?:)) Will be reading Ps. 139 for the entire week. It blew my mind away! Day 1 was a very emotional and tough day. Determined to stay the course! Thanks so much for this.

    January 4, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Ann,
      Thank you so much for being here and for sharing your story! I share your difficulty in sticking with Bible reading/programs — even though I often write Scripture reflections. I just keep coming back to it. I think my pointer is this: Always be willing to be a beginner, and don’t be too hard on yourself. I think we can expect so much from ourselves at times that it makes us throw our hands up and give up. Hang in there!

      January 4, 2017
  24. Stephanie S #

    I’m frustrated, to be honest. More than a year ago, I embarked on another Weight Watchers journey…not just to lose weight, but to feel better physically and emotionally about myself. I lost 30 pounds in a few months. Then my father died. While I am not using his death as an excuse, I just let things slip. Needless to say, I put on about half of what I lost. I’ve never before had trouble sticking to the plan. I am still struggling with saying no. I feel terrible about myself. My hope is that I can do little things each week, including praying more intentionally, to help. I appreciate this Tribe already. Thanks for being here.

    January 6, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Oh, Stephanie. I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. What a difficult time. Be kind to yourself. I’m all too familiar with the feelings of self-loathing. I’m not sure where that comes from in my past, but it’s there and it won’t budge. Just when I think I’m getting beyond it, something sends me crashing back down and I’m saying awful things about myself. Like I said in the first chapter of Cravings, I can remember hating myself since I was just a little girl, and I guess part of me is still that little girl — whenever I get hurt or afraid or upset. That’s my comfort zone for some reason, which is sad. Why is that my comfort zone?

      Try to be gentle toward yourself and imagine thinking/saying the things you feel about yourself to someone else you love. You wouldn’t do it. So why are we willing to do it to ourselves? I continue to explore that question and poke around the possible answers. If I could achieve one “goal” this year, that would be it: finally understanding what that’s about and how to stop it in its tracks when I feel it starting. I think I’m becoming more aware of it, almost like I’m an outside observer when those feelings start welling up and I know, somewhere deep down, that I need to stop it, change directions, but this is the path that’s most familiar to me, so it’s hard to go somewhere new.

      We’ll try to break the pattern together! Thank you for sharing and being here.
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 6, 2017
  25. Leah wilson #

    Mary! The Holy Spirit brought me here!! I was in confession TODAY lamenting a spiritual dryness as well as wasting my time and overeating. The wonderful priest told me that spiritual dryness is often a symptom of something deeper/disconnect we need to examine within ourselves. For my penance he asked me to pray on and examine this. Then I very much stumble across you!(albeit a week late) I look forward to following along starting this week and thank you so much for your insight!!! You are an answer to a prayer!

    January 14, 2017
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Welcome! And thank you for being here. I’ll be posting about chapter 3 tomorrow, but you can catch up — easy to do! — by looking through the blog posts for the past two weeks.
      Peace,
      Mary

      January 15, 2017

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